Hi and welcome to my journal, I've been subjected to CyberBullying for several years and like many other people, it's something that's tough to deal with and it's not something I want my kids to have to deal with. Parents, it's true that parents can be bullies, raise bullies and not even know that they've raised narcissistic bullies both in school, the workplace and especially online. Cyberbullying is something that is easy to hide, because you sign out, close the computer and no one gets held accountable.
Chance Trahan wants to help stop cyberbullying, it's an epidemic that leaves kids, adults, and even the LGBT community feeling worthless. It doesn't matter who you are, how old you've become, or how tough you think you are... it can still effect you and how you feel. The only thing cyberbullies care about is how they feel themselves. It's a low way of life, because it does not do any good, only spreads shame when love is what is beneficial to our society as a whole, as one, as a unit. How do I know? Because I used to be one.
CHANCE TRAHAN DISCUSSES CYBERBULLYING
I used to hate myself. I used to hate the fact that I didn't have a father around. I grew up without my dad raising me and I grew to become very bitter and hostile about it. It was something I didn't understand. How could my real dad leave me this way? How could my real dad attempt to murder me the only times I ever spent with him? How could he raise my half-brother to be a murderous psychopath? How could my dad not just give me the gift of having siblings? How could he do this to people I love? I became bitter, took my frustration out on others online. I hated every minute of it, but in the moment, I felt as if I had power. Power to control someone's feelings, power to make them hate themselves the same way I hated myself for things I couldn't control in my own life. I just wanted other people to hurt the way he hurt me. I was scared, felt alone, and very afraid. Not even comfortable in my own skin. I had to do something about it, and it didn't matter who you were, if you crossed my path and said something about me I didn't like, I would make you out to feel miserable. Misery loves company, and I felt I had to be right. The feeling and need to be right consumed me, I would argue my point and for that moment I felt power.
I could walk away from the computer any time, it was like a drug, but I wanted more. It wasn't very often I would do this, it wasn't like I did this all the time. I often felt like the people who made me angry online deserved it, like they deserved to be brought down a peg or two, but then I think back and remember that everyone is fighting their own fight. It was like a game of chess to me, think about that, it was like a game, someone's life and feelings was like a game to me. To play with the outcome of someone's life was a game to me, it was not right, and no one was there to hold me accountable, but myself. I self-medicated with marijuana, it helped me forget the pain and focus on the creativity I harnessed. I grew up being bullied by lots of people in my family and in my life, and bullying back became a defense mechanism. I became good at it, but now I am not that way. Normally I am not that way. It takes a lot to push my buttons. I just want cyberbullies to know that they don't have to do that to feel powerful, because the fact that you can control your own thoughts is powerful enough. Most people just want to be accepted, even you do, so imagine how someone feels when they're bullied. Especially online, the victim feels violated, they feel stalked and they feel harassed.
People who have been cyberbullied feel afraid, they're scared that the violator will come back and do it again. Some people laugh about cyberbullying, especially other bullies, but it's a real epidemic, and it's effecting lots of lives. Can you imagine what a kid must be going through that takes their own life after being cyberbullied? What kind of peace is that person craving that they're not getting when they're anonymously cyberbullied? The people we all cyberbully, or even bully in person while face to face, or behind someone's back as passive aggressiveness, they're mothers, brothers, sisters, daughters, sons, grandmas, grandpas, they belong to some kind of family, they have a home, and who are you to disrupt their home, or their peace of mind? Who are you to judge their way of life? What gives you the right to pass judgement on them? There's laws against harassment, and it's a serious offense and you could serve time for doing it.
I would go as far to say that every single person on earth has been bullied one way or another. Everyone is a victim of bullying, whether it be when you were spanked as a child, forced to give up what you wanted as a kid and your parents or siblings wouldn't let you have, or even maybe just taken advantage of. But either way, you've been bullied at some point or another. It's time to hold those doing bullying accountable. Even the government should be held accountable for the bullying they do. The government bullies money from you with taxes, and all sorts of different ways. I'm for the solution of holding those who are bullies accountable. I'm starting a music and public speaking tour to help bring a solution to online bullying, and I want you to be there to help being held accountable a possibility. When it comes to interstate cyberbullying, you will not find much accountability. So help me find others accountable for the bullying they are actively doing and maliciously calling it being an activist. There is nothing activist about cyberbullying people, picking on people, and making fun of others at the sacrifice of their own happiness and peaceful feelings. There is no room for shame when we are so full of love.
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